Wherever you go, there you are

We have all heard the saying "the grass always seems greener on the other side". What makes us think that if we "go" to the other side of the hill that things will be any different?

Wherever we are, in whatever suituation we find ourselves, the only constant is ourselves- what we feel, think and whatever our past expereinces bring to the situation. Often we feel that whatever is not working in our lives is external and if only we could change our environment things would be better. We may not like our job, but I am sure we all know someone who changed jobs only to go from the frying pan to the fire so to speak. We can change where we live and create new friendships and relationships- but the personality we pack with us is probably the same one we had when we were in the last town. Many people leave a relationship and enter into a new one without taking time to sort what may not have been working. Often those relationships don't work out, not because we haven't determined all the problems with the other person- we pretty much can list those off easily, but we can not always pin point our own issues that we brought with us.

So we can go from relationship to relationship or from job to job or from town to town, but wherever we go we are there. The only way to change what is happening on the outside is to change our perspective from the inside. It means asking ourselves "what do I bring to this situation that it is not working?" In other words, what patterns are not working that are no longer serving us. Not an easy thing to do, especially for those who are "comfortably numb".

So how to get some insight then? Going inside, into the stillness and silence is a good first step. Take several deep cleansing breaths and ask yourself, what is it that you would like, but don't have? Why do you think you don't have it? What do you have that is good and working? Ask the questions and then listen, for ther answers are there.

Often it takes time to break the old patterns to allow something new to take it's place. Only when we have tended to the garden of our souls will we be able to see the new grass growing where there was once a patch of weeds.

And I dare see it looks much greener too.